"Its choice not chance that determines your destiny." --Jean Nidetch

It is not what happens to us in our lives that is important, but how we choose to deal with it. Stuff happens, as the saying goes. So what do you do about it?

Realizing that you have a choice is the first step. Lost your job? You can chose to dwell on the past and the I wish it hadnt happened, or you can pick yourself up, dust yourself down and think Its happened. What can I do now? Choose to change the way you think. Take notice hear what your intuition is telling you listen and pay attention.

What are your alternatives? What are your options? Make a decision. Your decision. Other peoples negative reactions belong to them. Choose not to absorb them as your own. Maintain your own integrity and choose to follow the path to your ideal future. What do you need to learn? Who do you need to know? What do you need to do? There is always a range of possibilities to choose from. Now is the time to decide which ones are right for you. It is up to you. Be in charge of yourself. Choose to stop apologizing or making excuses. Dont disconnect yourself from what you truly want dont compromise if your instincts are screaming for you to follow another path.

Through conscious and subconscious choices the control of your life is in your hands. Even choosing to do nothing, change nothing, is still a choice. Choose to invest in yourself because you are worth it time, emotion, money and respect. No one else will value you unless you choose to value yourself.

Kate Harper

Kate Harper is a Motivation Coach working in the Highlands of Scotland. She has written many articles for 'The Press and Journal' newspaper, which is based in Aberdeen, Scotland.

Are you fed up with moaning about your life and have decided to do something about it - but don't know where to start? If that's you, then contact Kate NOW! She will work with you on what kind of future you want and what steps you need to take to get there. She'll be there support you all the way!