I came across Lynn Grabhorns ground breaking book on Law of Attraction by accident. As my husband needed to go to the library, I accompanied him there for something to do. I stopped at the row of non-fiction books closest to the door, intending to keep on moving around the room till my husband was finished. Somewhere between Philosophy and Great Lives, I discovered Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting.

As intrigued as I was by the title, l was even more intrigued by its subtitle the astonishing power of feelings. According to the author, you can make your life just the way you want it to be not by working harder, or being more positive or saying affirmations a hundred time a day, but by focusing on what you really want, and injecting your desires with feelings.

It reminded me of an old time favourite movie of mine Groundhog Day with Bill Murray. I wont spoil the story for anyone out there who hasnt seen this piece of creativity, suffice it to say that Bill found himself in one of those impossible situations that no amount of worry could help. He screamed, he fussed, became thoroughly depressed, decided life was not worth living, but could change nothing.

As Lynn Grabhorn would say, his focus was completely on what he didnt want. And so long as his focus remained on what he didnt want, all he could hope for was more of the same.

According to Lynn, thats how most of us live worrying, fearing, fretting, fussing. And as long as were in that place of what we dont want, thats where were going to remain.

Back in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania, Bill, after knocking his head against a solid wall of I dont want this, came to the conclusion that if what he was doing wasnt working, perhaps he should change his focus.

Now heres the tricky bit. Deciding simply to want to get out of the bad situation is not really focusing on what you want. You must want a positive outcome.

Bill decided that what he wanted was not Please, get me out of this, hed already done that a million times, and it hadnt worked - but rather, I want to be happy, I want to be useful, I want to have friends, I want to develop my talents.

Did things change for Bill? Would I be writing this if they hadnt?

As hard as it is to believe, most of us, says Lynn Grabhorn, spent our time thinking about the things we dont want to be part of our lives. More often than not, we have no idea of what we do want and we drift on the sea of our worries and other peoples agenda for us.

The Law of Attraction works in either case. If your focus is on what you dont want, it will deliver. If you decide you want to live the good life whatever that means to you - it will deliver that too.

Vlady Peters

Vlady Peters is an Australian Civil Marriage Celebrant performing weddings, naming, renenewal of vows and commitment ceremonies both for Australian citizens and for overseas couples visiting friends and relatives in Australia.

She is the author of two traditionally published books, "The Complete Book of Australian Weddings" and "The Small Organisation Handbbook" and is in the process of releasing two ebooks dealing with weddings and honeymoons.

Her major interest is research into customs and traditions of weddings.

By going back to the roots of customs, she believes couples can more clearly differentiate between what is essential in a wedding ceremony, and what is merely a personal preference.

This allows them to choose a ceremony reflecting their own situation within the framework of legal requirements.

Vlady has a bachelor of Arts in English Literature and Government, and has studied the writing of novels and romances. She has written children picture books as well as novels.

She is a member of Queesland Civil Marriage Celebrants - the largest Civil Marriage Celebrants Association in Australia - as well as member of Celebrants' Training Association.

She is also a member of Australian Authors, as well as Romance Writers Association where for a number of years she was the Convenor of the prestigious Emma Darcy Award - Australia's leading Lady of Romance.